There are those who know when they want a relationship and those who don’t but think they do. Those of you who are satisfied being single, enjoying that time to yourself and will readily settle down with the right person when that person comes along you are a to be commended! It takes confidence, self-awareness and honesty to realize when you are truly ready to be in a relationship.
There are many people walking around wondering where their special someone is and eager (and maybe even over-eager) to find that person. However, each person they meet just doesn’t live up to their expectations, requirements or needs. One question to ask yourself is, “are you really ready for a relationship?” Thinking you are and really being ready are often confused.
If you find yourself longing for a romantic partner but each person you meet has something wrong with them (e.g. they talk too fast, their left eyebrow needs trimming, they’re too short, they aren’t as stylish as you) the issue may not be with them, it may be with you. Being picky is one thing but being overly critical is another.
Think about what you require from your partner long-term. For me some of my requirements include: someone who makes me laugh, who loves me for who I am, who demonstrates his love for me passionately and wholeheartedly, who is honest, forgiving and growth-oriented, who respects me and allows me to be a better person. I have about 10 things on my list but they don’t entail fingernail length, eye color and whether he’s fashionable. There are the “nice to have” items but they don’t make someone a great person and a great partner and therefore can’t be a deal-breaker in my relationship.
If you can focus on the fundamentals of what you need from someone, it’s because you have a strong sense of who you are and what is important to you in your life.
Remember, you cannot change anyone but yourself.
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